Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire
“Liar, liar, pants on fire!” Have you ever heard this line before? In this episode of The Reclamation, The Reclas: Justin, Tonya, and Neva fire up their conversation with Billy Crystal’s lines. Through this, they will examine the reason behind the human truth of committing simple truths. Tonya shares about the chameleon’s abilities and Neva talks about her self-reflection and self-awareness journey. The world is programmed to speak lies and untruths since it is not open or trained on how to receive and react to truths appropriately. Remember that it is essential to embody and practice transparency and complete authenticity as a family. So, tune in to hear this live parenting episode as the family shouts, “Liar, liar, pants on fire!”
Justin Recla:
Welcome back to another episode of Reclamation. This is my turn. And I’m going to set the container for this show here. Billy Crystal, The Princess Bride. And I forget the actress’s name, his wife. They went to Max, the medicine man. Billy Crystal’s Max, the medicine man. And he’s trying to interpret something that the dead Dread Pirate Roberts is breathing out of his mouth and he’s like, “Oh, for money, it’s got to be for money.” And his wife comes around and goes, “Liar. Liar.”
Today’s episode is titled Liar, Liar, Pants On Fire. And we’re going to examine why it’s human nature to go into just simple untruths. I’ve been reflecting upon this because I’m a chameleon. I’ve disposed of chameleon abilities. We all carry that ability and whatnot. I’m able to see it for myself. And yeah, so this is going to be another live parenting episode on Reclamation because our daughter is strong enough and our family unit is strong enough.
Neva Lee Recla:
I knew you were going to do something like this. He didn’t tell me what the title was. And today, we were planning on recording, and we all recorded three episodes and hosted one, and mom was just straight out of the bat, just like bam, bam, bam. And then dad’s, bam, bam, bam, so this is going to be fun.
Justin Recla:
But this is good. I just want to honor the fact that your transparency is good because this is what gives people permission to do the same on their own family unit. We can model something different here. Okay. Because as you can guess, by the title of the show, there have been a couple of incidents in the Recla household with a 12-year-old not fully being truthful.
Neva Lee Recla:
What’s the title of the show? Quick. Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire.
Justin Recla:
Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire.
Neva Lee Recla:
They both just looked at me. What is this?
Justin Recla:
I wanted to examine this from a place different than just, “Oh, that’s just what kids do.” Because in the experience as your dad, I’ve seen something different. Since I like to reflect upon, “Why am I seeing this in my life? Where did it originate from?” I was able to find myself in it and look at it through the lens of my design, the chameleon, and so forth. And we’ll get on to the back end of what that means. But Tonya, before we go on break because I’m not going to let her talk until after the break.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
Smart.
Justin Recla:
What are you seeing? Just plant the seeds because we’ll go into this on the back end in more detail. But I see the self-reflection in the chameleon. What do you see?
Tonya Dawn Recla:
Well, one, I see first and foremost that never even once have we ever referred to you as a liar. There have been conversations around perhaps lying and speaking untruths, but never once have we referred to you as a liar.
Justin Recla:
True. Never once have we referred to you as a liar.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
Because that’s simply not true.
Justin Recla:
Because it’s not true because you are in integrity in almost, wow, everything you do, except for the stories that you like to tell yourself.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
Once the program gets triggered. And we’re aware that that’s what’s happening. So, you’re lucky in that regard, and still, we have a responsibility to assist you in retraining that. And so, that’s the biggest component I’m seeing. I do take a little bit of an exception. I don’t know that we’re all prone to speaking untruths. I would say that I am actually very much designed to speak the total truth.
Justin Recla:
That’s my experience with you.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
And I was trained to lie because the world didn’t necessarily know how to receive how the world responded to those truths.
Justin Recla:
That’s the counter-intel background because you have to be really good at that.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
Right. And so from a very young age, because I don’t have the chameleon ability. I’m not predisposed to chameleon ability. One of the things that is really integral to that aspect of my design is being completely integrity in your total character. And so that would have me not speaking untruths. Anyway, I do think that it’s possible that we do have a difference in the design, and it’s important, I think, to create space for that because part of almost everybody’s journey comes about because you are trying to fit into a box and trying to fit into a box and trying to fit into a box and everybody said, “Everybody was like this,” and it was like and you weren’t. And so I like to create some space for that.
Justin Recla:
Absolutely. So, we’re going to explore all of that on the back end, and we’re going to look at it from, we’re going to get Neva’s buy-in as to her own self-awareness of the couple of moments that we’ve experienced over the past days to self-reflect and see what her self-reflection is.
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